A year ago today I watched my brother-in-law die in a horrible incident. He was one of my best friends and I always thought I'd someday post something more in depth to everyone here about that day, about my sister and her battle with breast cancer since losing him and about their beautiful son and how much of a joy he is. But every time I try, the words just fail and it all comes back to one simple thing: I miss him so much!

-Bo

This is the slideshow I put together for the memorial:

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(large file, takes a minute to start streaming)

My sister comes into his life at 3:30
He teaches my son to ride a bike at 5:35
The birth of their son at 7:57
The last minute always brings a smile to my face!

That was a beautiful tribute, Bo. Much love to you on this difficult day.

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rj
AKA
Vreemac, Moth of the Future

Bo,

looking forward to see the tribute once I get into the city where I have decent net connection. Thanks for sharing

The first anniversary of a loss is always the hardest to endure.

Be well.

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RIP, Greg the DogSitter. You are missed.

I didn't know your brother-in-law but he seemed like a great guy who truly enjoyed the adventure we call life. That makes me happy for those that did know him; it also makes me sad for all of us who lost that spirit when he was taken from the world.

That was beautiful tribute and one well worth the few minutes it takes to watch.

Thank you for sharing it with us.

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You can tell a lot about a woman by her hands...
- For example, if they are wrapped around your throat she's probably slightly upset.



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Lovely tribute. I'm sure he is smiling down on you today.

Beautiful tribute. Just beautiful. He knows you miss him. Clearly he was and is a person so loving and so loved that this love transcends borders of what we consider time and space. As such, he will always be with your family. I hope you can take some comfort in that. I am so sorry for your loss, Bo.

incredibly touching.

love the bits of video, the laughing baby...

first song is a sweet cover.
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so sorry for your family's loss.

finally watched the tribute, wonderful man and wonderful work on your side, Bo!

very moving tribute - he seems like a man who you never had to coax a smile out of him...

Beautiful.

so very sorry to read of this, Bo. I do remember you posting about your sis, but not him. I'm always heartbroken when I hear of parents dying after the birth of their child. It happened to a good friend of mine right around the time of my first child, and it was extremely painful. I'm hoping that your sister finds comfort in her great family.

Great tribute Bo. Sending good thoughts to you and your family.

I've always believed that a measure of a life is much more than the one's achievements, titles or money. A true measure is the number of lives that one has touched....

Your brother-in-law has touched many lives.

Bo, that is a very moving tribute. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Dave

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...on the trailing edge of technology.



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What a lovely tribute. My heart aches for you all.

Bo that was indeed a great tribute. One thing I noticed throughout was that it appears he knew how to live and done
so to its fullest.

We both have an aniversary of sorts today. Today marks the one year annivesary of the last day I carried on a
face to face conversation with my son Jesse.

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Grateful11

Oh my God, what a beautiful, beautiful tribute. And clearly one of the world's most handsome men.

I don't even know him and I miss him. Such a robust, gentle spirit taken away so young. It hasn't been a long time and I know you all are grieving. I pray that you all are able to manage the pain. Very well done.

Beautiful. Just beautiful.

Thanks for reminding me to take a deep breath and live in the present.

Well done - a fine tribute to the man

Wishing continued healing for your sister and their child, and all that loved the man including you. When you can look back on a tribute and smile then you know the healing has began.

Peace to you all.

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Thanks to everyone for your kind words! You clearly all picked up on just how much David enjoyed life. That smile was a permanent fixture on his face and in the twelve years I knew him can only remember one time that he was even remotely upset about anything. He was eternally optimistic and it was infectious. I don't know how many times I'd get that call..."What's going on? Be ready, we'll be there in five minutes!" And before you had a chance to protest, you'd be out mountain biking on Mt. Tam or hiking the Fairfax lakes or heading out water skiing or going into SF for a night out or heading up the coast for the weekend or at their house gorging on an incredible feast that he had thrown together at the last minute for fifteen people. Along the way he'd make new friends that were instantly welcomed into the revelry. He was the hub of an infinitely spoked wheel. He only ever saw the good in people and often hired those who were down on their luck because he truly believed everyone deserved a break.

More than anything though...he wanted to be a father. And that might just be the most heart wrenching aspect of this many layered tragedy. In the picture i attached in the original post, he and my sister had gone down to Monterey to visit family. They had just been forced into selling the house that he built but they had a healthy baby after many attempts and my sister was a month shy of her cancer diagnosis. It was their two month window of true joy and he told me things were perfect and all he could do that day was just hold his baby close, stare into those little eyes and cry tears of joy.