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my mom died a week ago, hard to believe she is gone.
Posted by: robfilms
Date: November 08, 2014 02:39PM
saturday/november 1, 2014/306pm EST

85.5 years young.

she passed quietly with my sister holding her right hand and me holding her left.

surreal.

it is hard to believe she is gone.

always active: on the week she passed she went to see a broadway show, an opera, an art opening and she chaired a board meeting at our synagogue.

she was never an old lady.
she knew how to give love.
she knew how to receive love.

i was fortunate to be her son.

this is a piece someone posted about her:
[www.therealnewyorkers.com]

ymmv.

be well.

rob



Edited 2 time(s). Last edit at 11/09/2014 06:10PM by robfilms.
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Posted by: space-time
Date: November 08, 2014 02:41PM
Sorry about your loss.
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Re: my mom died a week ago, hard to believe she is gone.
Posted by: wave rider
Date: November 08, 2014 02:42PM
My condolences for your loss...

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Re: my mom died a week ago, hard to believe she is gone.
Posted by: WHiiP
Date: November 08, 2014 02:48PM
Those of us who have had great mothers were very blessed.

I have no way of knowing how my life would have turned out without her.

You were very blessed.

My condolences for your loss. She is with you always . . .



Bill
Flagler Beach, FL 32136

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Fermentation may have been a greater discovery than fire.
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Re: my mom died a week ago, hard to believe she is gone.
Posted by: Pam
Date: November 08, 2014 03:01PM
So sorry for your loss. I think I'd rather go out being active than sick for a long period of time. Either way, it's hard on those left behind.
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Re: my mom died a week ago, hard to believe she is gone.
Posted by: Buzz
Date: November 08, 2014 03:01PM
Glad you were fortunate to have a good one.
My condolences, too, for your loss.
R.I.P robmom
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Re: my mom died a week ago, hard to believe she is gone.
Posted by: billb
Date: November 08, 2014 03:12PM
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Re: my mom died a week ago, hard to believe she is gone.
Posted by: TheCaber
Date: November 08, 2014 03:17PM
My condolences on the loss of your mom, Rob.
May all your memories of her kindness and love carry you through the days to come.



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Re: my mom died a week ago, hard to believe she is gone.
Posted by: hal
Date: November 08, 2014 03:18PM
So sorry Rob. That was a very nice piece written about your mom. Maybe it'll help a bit to know that reading that is helping motivate me to get over a particular hump that has been giving me problems. I ain't no force of nature - I need every little push I can get...
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Re: my mom died a week ago, hard to believe she is gone.
Posted by: Speedy
Date: November 08, 2014 03:23PM
She was a remarkable woman. My sincerest condolences.



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Re: my mom died a week ago, hard to believe she is gone.
Posted by: rich in distress
Date: November 08, 2014 03:35PM
My condolences Rob.
She will remain here through you, her family, and all the good people loved.



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Re: my mom died a week ago, hard to believe she is gone.
Posted by: A-Polly
Date: November 08, 2014 03:38PM
What a blessing that you and your sister were able to be with her at the end. My sympathies to you and your family.
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Re: my mom died a week ago, hard to believe she is gone.
Posted by: sekker
Date: November 08, 2014 03:45PM
Condolences to your whole family and community.

She will also be with you.
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Re: my mom died a week ago, hard to believe she is gone.
Posted by: DavidS
Date: November 08, 2014 03:59PM
My sincere condolences on your loss, Rob. May your mother's memory be for a blessing. I have no doubt that it will be for you, your sister, and the many other lives that she touched.
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Posted by: vision63
Date: November 08, 2014 04:25PM
It definitely sounds like a surreal but very special experience. She was an inspiration. I definitely want to live like her. Peace be with her and to her people, especially her children.
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Posted by: Rick-o
Date: November 08, 2014 04:34PM
So sorry for your loss, rob. She sounded like a remarkable person who absolutely loved life.

R.I.P. Elaine



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Re: my mom died a week ago, hard to believe she is gone.
Posted by: BCam
Date: November 08, 2014 04:50PM
Rob,
I think I had the same kind of mom.
When she was 86, and her younger sister (at 84), Mom and Le would volunteer at a local assisted living facility. When I asked her why they were doing that, her answer was, "Well, you know, those old folks need some help."

They're both gone now, but your tribute above brought a memory and a smile to me.
Thanks.
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Posted by: LaserKun
Date: November 08, 2014 05:32PM
Rob, a big amen to what the others said. You were indeed blessed to have had your mother. Her kind of life even inspires us who never knew her through your post.
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Re: my mom died a week ago, hard to believe she is gone.
Posted by: Kraniac
Date: November 08, 2014 05:54PM
Dude Rob,

Im going through this process right now.

When I imagine how this all goes down..the right way-in my mind, it's exactly like you described in the moment of your Mom's passing. She was lucky to have you there and probably felt safe that way..I hope it can be the same with my Mom. I know that when her kids and grandkids are around her she is always at the pinnacle of her potential happiness..that's it bro..I would be willing to bet your Mom's the same way..

Strength to you..mourn and honor her and then know that she did what she needed to do and lived a good life..which it sounds like she did..

power to you, my man!!
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Posted by: Kate
Date: November 08, 2014 07:14PM
You were indeed lucky to be her son.

My condolences

Kate
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Posted by: mrbigstuff
Date: November 08, 2014 07:15PM
Rob, so sorry for your loss. But, it sounds as if your mom would not have you mourning her in a sad way for too long. That written piece was wonderful and few people have such a lasting impression on others.
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Posted by: testcase
Date: November 08, 2014 07:37PM
It's nice your mother had you and your sister present at such a difficult time. I hope you and your sister are logistically close enough to be able to be there for each other after your mother's passing. My condolences on your loss. sad smiley
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Posted by: $tevie
Date: November 08, 2014 10:36PM
I'm very sorry for your loss. But what wonderful memories you shall have!



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Posted by: mrlynn
Date: November 08, 2014 10:44PM
She sounds like an amazing woman. It was doubtless a blessing to be taken so fast, not to spend months or even years suffering as too many do. Thanks for sharing that piece about her.

/Mr Lynn



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Posted by: Kraniac
Date: November 08, 2014 11:29PM
I just went and read that piece that someone wrote about your MA, Rob. Im glad I read that article because it reminded me of my Mom a little bit..

Your Mom is cool.

My Mom's cool too.

She runs the gamut..grew up poor on the westside of chicago almost an orphan save an Aunt who raised her in an apartment in a chicago 2 flat with 5 other shirttail relatives..She took on the world and learned everything she could..she ended up being an an antique oriental rug dealer-not a shopkeeper, a trader who the sold to shops and designers etc..this was a man's world and there was my Mom..making deals with all these middle eastern dudes who used to come over to our house trade in rugs, almost every day..They were heavy hitters in the haggle and she took zero @#$%& from any of these guys..she knew her stuff and had a good eye. I always remember these heated haggling sessions going on in our house, always punctuated by the smell of coffee and the men smoking ciggs...Rugs laid out, loud discussions about condition, repairs that were made, price..She was tough, and still tough..tough and beautiful and fully rounded..she knows the world from many angles..high culture to gutter culture. She still loves to laugh hard and doesn't mince her words..She's down to 96 pounds right now, extremely frail, in dementia and congestive heart failure and all she wants is her kids nearby...

It' so important and profound that you were there with your Ma. She sounds like an incredible person..really choked me up reading it..wonderful.
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Posted by: blooz
Date: November 08, 2014 11:58PM
My sympathy. I remember how I felt when my mother died.



And we should consider every day lost on which we have not danced at least once.
—Friedrich Nietzsche
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Posted by: Uncle Wig
Date: November 09, 2014 10:38AM
My condolences to you rob.



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Posted by: prymsnap
Date: November 09, 2014 10:54AM
Condolences, Rob. I hope I can be holding my mom's hand when she takes that journey.
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Posted by: onthedownlow
Date: November 09, 2014 09:24PM
Sorry, brother.



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Posted by: Sam3
Date: November 09, 2014 09:57PM
My condolences Rob, you are fortunate to have such a wonderful mom, and were fortunate that you were able to be with her as she left this world. I went through the same thing 12 years ago with my mom, I felt blessed that I could be with her at the end. I'm sure your mom felt at peace having her children with her to help with the journey.
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Posted by: smacks
Date: November 10, 2014 08:28AM
Sorry, man. That sucks. It sounds like she was an exceptional lady.
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Posted by: anonymouse1
Date: November 10, 2014 08:51AM
Condolences on your loss.
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Re: my mom died a week ago, hard to believe she is gone.
Posted by: Gutenberg
Date: November 10, 2014 10:31AM
So sorry for your loss. Your mother's death sounds like a loss for us all.
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Posted by: decay
Date: November 10, 2014 11:22AM
that was a great piece, and my heart is broken for your loss.

i imagine that she touched many, and enhanced their lives, and so lives on in all of them, every time they think of her.

keep passing along the memories and keep them alive.



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Posted by: Silencio
Date: November 10, 2014 11:36AM
I'm so sorry for your loss.
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Posted by: N-OS X-tasy!
Date: November 10, 2014 11:52AM
Very sorry to hear about your loss, rob. She must have been a heck of a person, if her son is any indication.



It is what it is.
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Posted by: Rolando
Date: November 10, 2014 12:10PM
It still is incredible that my mother died 6 years ago. When I think of it stuns me. My wife's grandmother passed away in June and she is still hit by the pain in her quiet moments. I try to console her, but it brings me back to where I was and I thank her for being there for me. I read something many years ago, but never could quite remember it until I found it online last month.



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"To announce that there must be no criticism of the President, or that we are to stand by the President, right or wrong, is not only unpatriotic and servile, but is morally treasonable to the American public." - Theodore Roosevelt (1918)

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Posted by: Rolando
Date: November 10, 2014 12:11PM
For all those who have lost someone:
"You will lose someone you can’t live without, and your heart will be badly broken, and the bad news is that you never completely get over the loss of your beloved. But this is also the good news. They live forever in your broken heart that doesn’t seal back up. And you come through. It’s like having a broken leg that never heals perfectly-that still hurts when the weather gets cold, but you learn to dance with the limp."
-Anne Lamott



San Antonio, TX (in the old city)


"All that is required for evil to prevail is for good men to do nothing." - Edmund Burke
“Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented." - Eli Weisel

"To announce that there must be no criticism of the President, or that we are to stand by the President, right or wrong, is not only unpatriotic and servile, but is morally treasonable to the American public." - Theodore Roosevelt (1918)

"I don’t want to see religious bigotry in any form. It would disturb me if there was a wedding between the religious fundamentalists and the political right. The hard right has no interest in religion except to manipulate it." - Billy Graham 1981

"Politics and governing demand compromise. But these Christians believe they are acting in the name of God, so they can't and won't compromise" - Barry Goldwater
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