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So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: cbelt3
Date: January 09, 2018 11:05PM
His lungs have pretty much failed and he is in hospice. My sister let me FaceTime with him one last time, but he wasn’t conscious at all. I can’t even fly out because I’m still contagious with influenza. He’s 57 years old, and nobody ever expected him to make it this far. Really his long life is a testament to our parents persistence. Severe learning disabilities , epilepsy, scoliosis. He hasn’t been able to swallow for almost 15 years, and has been tube fed the whole time.

It’s time he was allowed to rest.



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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: Racer X
Date: January 09, 2018 11:06PM
I am so sorry to hear this. My thought are with you and your family.
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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: A-Polly
Date: January 09, 2018 11:14PM
My deepest condolences, cbelt3. May flights of angels sing your brother to his rest.
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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: abevilac
Date: January 09, 2018 11:17PM
Peace for him and for your family.
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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: Drew
Date: January 09, 2018 11:31PM
I feel for you. We knew that my wife was going to pass from cancer, but weren't sure when. When the day came there was grief, but quickly followed with a sense of relief. Over time, the relief grew stronger and the grief faded. You are in a good place mentally. If possible, get together with family when you can. There's something about sharing the same space with others who have such a shared experienced. Be blessed.
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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: lost in space
Date: January 09, 2018 11:43PM
Sad. Peace to him and your family.







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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: Buzz
Date: January 10, 2018 12:15AM
May the peace be with lit'l bro and y'all. Thoughts and prayers all around.
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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: mrbigstuff
Date: January 10, 2018 12:24AM
Peace
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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: polychrome
Date: January 10, 2018 01:18AM
Healing peace and condolences to you and your family. Your brother has gone through a lot in his young life.
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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: GeneL
Date: January 10, 2018 01:43AM
...and I thought that I had it bad. I am sad for you, my friend.



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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: SteveO
Date: January 10, 2018 01:43AM
Very sorry, man. Thoughts are with you.
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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: Carm
Date: January 10, 2018 01:45AM
Peace to you and your family. I remember having my grandfather taken off the ventilator in hospice. It was a sad sight. I just had to focus on all of the wonderful memories he shared with us.
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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: Pops
Date: January 10, 2018 01:49AM
Find strength for yourself and his family. Keep the good memories alive in your mind.
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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: N-OS X-tasy!
Date: January 10, 2018 02:36AM
Peace be with you both.



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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: Sam3
Date: January 10, 2018 02:42AM
May you have peace in your heart, and may he have a peaceful departure from this world.
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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: stephen
Date: January 10, 2018 03:23AM
I pray for peace, for all of you. I know he has been loved.
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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: The UnDoug
Date: January 10, 2018 05:12AM
My condolences.



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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: Pam
Date: January 10, 2018 06:22AM
My sympathies. No matter the circumstances it's very difficult.
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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: Dennis R
Date: January 10, 2018 06:50AM
My deepest condolences.
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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: Lux Interior
Date: January 10, 2018 06:57AM
Condolences to you and your family, Charles.
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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: Yoyodyne ArtWorks
Date: January 10, 2018 07:04AM
Very sad situation on so many levels, my condolences to you and your family.



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and treat them as things we use to satisfy our own desires,
the outcome is predictable.
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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: rjmacs
Date: January 10, 2018 07:08AM
Love to you in this tough time, Charlie. You're a great brother, and I'm sorry you can't travel now. You and your family are in my thoughts and heart.



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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: DP
Date: January 10, 2018 07:16AM
What everyone else says. He's put up a damned good fight but it seems it's time for him to rest. God bless him and you and your family...




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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: Fritz
Date: January 10, 2018 07:27AM
sorry to read cbelt3. Peace be with you and yours.



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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: Rolando
Date: January 10, 2018 07:35AM
Peace and solace to you and your loved ones.



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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: robfilms
Date: January 10, 2018 08:11AM
cbelt3-

my young brother passed nearly 28 years ago.

he was 33 years old.

he missed so much of his life and sadly, participating in my life.

he was my best friend.

even after all these years, i think of him often.

your brother will still be a part of you.

his determination and the strength of your parent's efforts will stay.

we will all float away.

thankfully, we have others to anchor us until we do.

may you, your family and your brother's circle of support take solace in his many good deeds.

be well.

rob
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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: mrbigstuff
Date: January 10, 2018 08:24AM
Well said, rob
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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: GuyGene
Date: January 10, 2018 09:04AM
Oh me, cbelt3, I add my feelings to the above.



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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: raz
Date: January 10, 2018 09:08AM
My condolences. Please remember better times.



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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: decay
Date: January 10, 2018 09:25AM
Mixed emotions for sure.

I'm relieved he can finally be at peace when the time comes.



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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: rgG
Date: January 10, 2018 10:00AM
Peace to your brother and to your family.





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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: freeradical
Date: January 10, 2018 10:33AM
So sorry to hear this.

Peace
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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: testcase
Date: January 10, 2018 10:49AM
"It’s time he was allowed to rest."

You're wise to recognize this. Sounds like he's fought the good fight and, did the best he possibly could.

As already mentioned, the grief will, over time fade, good memories will remain. My deepest condolences on your impending loss. sad smiley
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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: Buck
Date: January 10, 2018 11:19AM
All the best to you and your brother.
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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: prymsnap
Date: January 10, 2018 11:48AM
Your kindness is evident. I hope peace finds you and your dear family.
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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: wave rider
Date: January 10, 2018 11:51AM
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family cbelt. You have been a good brother...



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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: Wags
Date: January 10, 2018 12:08PM
So sorry for you loss, C.
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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: Filliam H. Muffman
Date: January 10, 2018 12:28PM
Prayers and condolences. It's a little over 5 years since we turned off mom's ventilator.
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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: rz
Date: January 10, 2018 12:53PM
So sorry to hear.
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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: NewtonMP2100
Date: January 10, 2018 01:44PM
.....sorry to hear.....hold on to the memories steadfast.....and know that he goes to truly rest in peace........



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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: anonymouse1
Date: January 10, 2018 01:54PM
Peace to you and your family.
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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: Rick-o
Date: January 10, 2018 02:03PM
My condolences. It's a tough thing to deal with. I hope you and your family can find peace with the decision.



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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: cbelt3
Date: January 10, 2018 02:23PM
FU: Aelred passed into a world without pain and suffering this morning. Our sister was holding his hand as he took his journey. Repeated pneumonia and the effects of scoliosis had damaged his lungs so severely that he had no chance. My younger sisters and nieces and nephews spent most of yesterday and last night surround him with love. They sang him his favorite songs, cracked his favorite jokes, and filled the room with love. It was beautiful. Mom is scheduling the funeral for a week and a half from now so I have a chance to recover. (Our Family cremates).

He was 57 years old. He has outlived every single experts opinion, all due to our mothers indomitable spirit. When he was 7 he suffered a severe neurological event and lost the ability to speak, walk, or even crawl. Mom refused to accept three doctors advice and went on a hunt. Found a doctor in Kansas City who had an experimental treatment callled “patterning”. And so for the better part of a year we trained him. First to creep, then to crawl, then to walk. And at the same time we taught him to speak again.

Nowadays this is a common therapy. Back in the 60’s it was witchcraft.

I used to carry my brother around outside. And yes, I used the “He ain’t heavy, He’s my brother!” line a few times. As he got older it became “He’s my brother and he weighs a ton !”.

I got in a few fights with neighborhood bullies who would call him names. There is nothing so satisfying as seeing a bully run home with a bloody nose after he called my brother names. He may have driven me nuts at times, but dammit he was MY brother.

I miss him. But now he can be at peace, and be the laughing little boy with a cap of bright blonde curls that is my strongest childhood memory at about age 3



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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: Speedy
Date: January 10, 2018 02:47PM
My sincere condolences. You were great brothers! Lucky you, lucky him.



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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: Sam3
Date: January 10, 2018 03:16PM
My sincere condolences. You were a good brother.



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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: mikebw
Date: January 10, 2018 04:04PM
Charles, while this brings a tear to my eye I know that he had the best brother anyone could have asked for.
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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: maco
Date: January 10, 2018 04:23PM
Sending hugs and good thoughts your way cbelt.
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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: $tevie
Date: January 10, 2018 04:33PM
I'm very sorry for your loss. Please accept my condolences.



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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: cbelt3
Date: January 10, 2018 05:59PM
Ive neglected to thank all of you.... this little community is filled with amazing people. Thank you all.

I could process this if I wasn’t so damn sick. Sort of hits me in waves between naps.
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Re: So tomorrow my brother is being taken off the ventilator
Posted by: N-OS X-tasy!
Date: January 10, 2018 06:50PM
Losing my brother is my greatest fear. My deepest condolences to you and your family.



It is what it is.
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