Trying to put away an installer on my iBook/900/10.3.9;
can't find a "downloads" folder anywhere . . . isn't that a default folder created by the OS installer? Where should it be?
Thx . . .

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I suffer from the same sensitivity that you do. A few nuggets of wisdom were shared with me and I'm "trying" to incorporate them into my life. First, remember that nobody can hurt your feelings unless you let them. You can always reject what is being forced on you emotionally.
Second, nothing changes unless you change it. If you don't want the behavior to be repeated then you need to take action. Otherwise the kid has learned that his behavior is the way to get things done, because everyone lets him get away with it.
In the meantime I sympathize because I've been there.
-beerman

OS X does not create a Downloads folder.

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It is what it is.

The only thing I have seen in Safari go to preferences and you can save downloads to a folder of your choice (call it "Downloads" or it defaults to the desktop.

I think I am going to do this to save my desktop from all the clutter.

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