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| Racists Suck Posted by: August West
Date: July 28, 2012 05:46PM
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| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: hal
Date: July 28, 2012 06:13PM
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| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: SDGuy
Date: July 28, 2012 06:16PM
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| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: cbelt3
Date: July 28, 2012 07:36PM
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| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: Ombligo
Date: July 28, 2012 07:52PM
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| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: Lemon Drop
Date: July 28, 2012 08:31PM
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That was a story right out of the 1960s...
I'm glad at least that some church members spoke their outrage...
| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: cbelt3
Date: July 28, 2012 08:52PM
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| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: vision63
Date: July 29, 2012 06:26PM
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| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: Black
Date: July 29, 2012 06:31PM
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Perhaps the preacher wants to "minister" to the aberrant members. We'll see how he handles it from this point forward. He might see it as a "teaching" moment which if they're receptive would be a good thing on some level.
| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: Lemon Drop
Date: July 29, 2012 06:49PM
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| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: vision63
Date: July 29, 2012 07:18PM
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| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: Lemon Drop
Date: July 29, 2012 07:42PM
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| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: vision63
Date: July 29, 2012 10:05PM
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| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: kj
Date: July 30, 2012 03:51AM
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| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: Black
Date: July 30, 2012 08:01AM
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Are you saying that the couple communicated to the pastor that they would prefer to go ahead and have the wedding there, and accept the potential controversy? Where did you read that?Quote
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The couple was not on board with it. This pastor really messed up, IMO, and I can understand why members of the congregation are disappointed in him.
| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: SDGuy
Date: July 30, 2012 09:40AM
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... the Pastor is not the "head" of the church, per se. He is really just an employee, and answers to the church board...the board tends to be made up, in part, of people that have money rather than those who would guide the church in the right direction. kj.
| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: Speedy
Date: July 30, 2012 09:51AM
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| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: Lemon Drop
Date: July 30, 2012 10:07AM
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Are you saying that the couple communicated to the pastor that they would prefer to go ahead and have the wedding there, and accept the potential controversy? Where did you read that?Quote
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The couple was not on board with it. This pastor really messed up, IMO, and I can understand why members of the congregation are disappointed in him.
| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: kj
Date: July 30, 2012 01:26PM
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| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: Wags
Date: July 30, 2012 01:58PM
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| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: Speedy
Date: July 30, 2012 02:28PM
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That church has some powerful haters in the congregation. Gotta love Southern Baptists.
Fwiw, it's not necessarily a Southern Baptist church. kj.
| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: Black
Date: July 30, 2012 09:14PM
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Are you saying that the couple communicated to the pastor that they would prefer to go ahead and have the wedding there, and accept the potential controversy? Where did you read that?Quote
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The couple was not on board with it. This pastor really messed up, IMO, and I can understand why members of the congregation are disappointed in him.
The couple had sent invitations to all their guests indicating the location of their wedding, they had held the rehearsal and the wedding was days away. I see nothing to indicate that they were OK with it, I see their objections. The pastor refused to marry them at his church, it was his call to make. He moved the location, they didn't. They objected.
| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: Lemon Drop
Date: July 30, 2012 09:34PM
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Are you saying that the couple communicated to the pastor that they would prefer to go ahead and have the wedding there, and accept the potential controversy? Where did you read that?Quote
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The couple was not on board with it. This pastor really messed up, IMO, and I can understand why members of the congregation are disappointed in him.
The couple had sent invitations to all their guests indicating the location of their wedding, they had held the rehearsal and the wedding was days away. I see nothing to indicate that they were OK with it, I see their objections. The pastor refused to marry them at his church, it was his call to make. He moved the location, they didn't. They objected.
Can you point me to any source that describes "they objected?"
I'm certainly not suggesting they were happy about the move, but I guess I just don't share your magical article reading powers.
| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: $tevie
Date: July 31, 2012 01:25PM
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| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: RgrF
Date: July 31, 2012 05:04PM
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Not to excuse the stance of those against the marriage (there is no excuse), but in the churches I attend, the Pastor is not the "head" of the church, per se. He is really just an employee, and answers to the church board. IOW, he has to be diplomatic to accomplish much of anything, since he's not really the "boss". One part of the church that I'm not fond of is that the board tends to be made up, in part, of people that have money rather than those who would guide the church in the right direction. kj.
| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: kj
Date: August 01, 2012 01:29AM
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Not to excuse the stance of those against the marriage (there is no excuse), but in the churches I attend, the Pastor is not the "head" of the church, per se. He is really just an employee, and answers to the church board. IOW, he has to be diplomatic to accomplish much of anything, since he's not really the "boss". One part of the church that I'm not fond of is that the board tends to be made up, in part, of people that have money rather than those who would guide the church in the right direction. kj.
I think kj has this one correct. Most Protestant congregations have the freedom to hire and fired pastors at will. This is different and might seem a bit strange to those from hierarchical organizations ( Catholic, Mormon etc.) but maybe not to those from a Protestant background. As I understand these things (I really don't) Jews and most Protestants allow church or temple members to make these hiring decisions at a local level, thus the pastor will almost always reflect local values.
How Muslims administer themselves, I have no idea nor do I have an inkling about Buddhists, Rastafarians or members of the Church of the Flying Spaghetti Monster.
| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: $tevie
Date: August 01, 2012 10:15AM
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| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: Lemon Drop
Date: August 01, 2012 10:29AM
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So all that means is that we are discussing a racist board and not a racist minister. Same difference.
| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: kj
Date: August 01, 2012 02:02PM
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So all that means is that we are discussing a racist board and not a racist minister. Same difference.
| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: kj
Date: August 01, 2012 02:11PM
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So all that means is that we are discussing a racist board and not a racist minister. Same difference.
I think a racist board and a cowardly minister. He could have stood up to these people and done the right thing. The decision to marry someone in a church is that of the minister. He said he wanted to "keep peace" so he moved the wedding. That's cowardice. He made the wrong call, and the right one should have been obvious in 2012. (Yes even in, OK especially in, Mississippi.)
| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: $tevie
Date: August 01, 2012 02:15PM
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So all that means is that we are discussing a racist board and not a racist minister. Same difference.
I don't really think it is the same. For one, it makes the minister's behavior more understandable. For another, the racists on the board are likely in their 70's or 80's. They will be gone soon, and the board will become more in step with the times. It also makes it clear that we're talking about his job. If he's fired, the board is still there, and maybe when they hire a new pastor, he's more in line with their racist views. Would that be better? I don't know. So it's a more complex situation than one would think. How does one best effect change? Is an "in your face" approach always better? Or is it sometimes wise to work with people for more lasting change, even though it may take longer? kj.
| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: kj
Date: August 01, 2012 02:24PM
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So all that means is that we are discussing a racist board and not a racist minister. Same difference.
I don't really think it is the same. For one, it makes the minister's behavior more understandable. For another, the racists on the board are likely in their 70's or 80's. They will be gone soon, and the board will become more in step with the times. It also makes it clear that we're talking about his job. If he's fired, the board is still there, and maybe when they hire a new pastor, he's more in line with their racist views. Would that be better? I don't know. So it's a more complex situation than one would think. How does one best effect change? Is an "in your face" approach always better? Or is it sometimes wise to work with people for more lasting change, even though it may take longer? kj.
In my mind, my post absolved the minister and went after the board.
. kj.| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: Lemon Drop
Date: August 01, 2012 02:40PM
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| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: kj
Date: August 01, 2012 03:05PM
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| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: swampy
Date: August 01, 2012 03:25PM
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| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: kj
Date: August 01, 2012 03:36PM
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| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: Lemon Drop
Date: August 01, 2012 04:22PM
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>>I belong to a protestant church and yes it is run by the congregation, not the pastor.
This one is run by a board, not the congregation. I've been (and am currently) employed by baptist churches (one first baptist, even), so I know more than I wish I did about how they work. It's clear to me some of the racists were on the board. The pastor wanted to marry them, but couldn't in the church because the board wouldn't let him, hence the mention of marrying people in another church. If he takes the board on directly, he's fired. I don't know what that accomplishes. I agree in an ideal world, things don't go down like that. But this isn't an ideal world and churches are filled with imperfect people. Maybe you could find it in your heart to grant the pastor a little grace ;-) ? Where does it say in the bible that his sins are worse than yours? kj.
| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: swampy
Date: August 01, 2012 04:36PM
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kj...I think the Southern Baptist Convention derserves kudos for electing a black as president.
I don't understand. kj.
| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: Lemon Drop
Date: August 01, 2012 04:44PM
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| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: RgrF
Date: August 01, 2012 09:52PM
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| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: kj
Date: August 02, 2012 03:51AM
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>>I belong to a protestant church and yes it is run by the congregation, not the pastor.
This one is run by a board, not the congregation. I've been (and am currently) employed by baptist churches (one first baptist, even), so I know more than I wish I did about how they work. It's clear to me some of the racists were on the board. The pastor wanted to marry them, but couldn't in the church because the board wouldn't let him, hence the mention of marrying people in another church. If he takes the board on directly, he's fired. I don't know what that accomplishes. I agree in an ideal world, things don't go down like that. But this isn't an ideal world and churches are filled with imperfect people. Maybe you could find it in your heart to grant the pastor a little grace ;-) ? Where does it say in the bible that his sins are worse than yours? kj.
kj - there is nothing to indicate that the small number of people in the congregation who objected to the marriage ceremony comprise a "board" at this church. Have you seen that in print anywhere? They remain anonymous, even the people in the congregation don't know who complained.
There is also nothing to indicate that the pastor was threatened with losing his job. The congregation has rallied around him and he appears to have majority support, even after the controversy.
The pastor himself stated that he made the decision, in order to "keep peace."
He made a bad call. Now he's trying to pick up the pieces and heal his church. I wish him the best.
The question remains - if an African American couple who belong to this church want to get married there, can they?
Until such a wedding takes place at this church, I think they're going to be stuck with this stain. Again, I wish them the best.
| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: RgrF
Date: August 02, 2012 04:02AM
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| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: $tevie
Date: August 02, 2012 08:12AM
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| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: Lemon Drop
Date: August 02, 2012 08:58AM
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I would like to point out that the couple in question were not members of that parish. I can't figure out if the folks who are saying they were "members of the church" think they were?
| Re: Racists Suck Posted by: $tevie
Date: August 02, 2012 09:42AM
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