All I've had so far today is some Cheez-Its and coffee. Now I'm really thirsty and, boy, this beer sure tastes good.
It's been a tough couple of weeks. My dad's funeral is in FL Thursday, but I won't be going. What can I do instead? This sucks.
But this beer tastes pretty good right now.

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Central VA

Sounds like you should drop a shot of jager in it. My condolences.

I am sorry about your dad CJ. Here are some ideas to keep you busy...

You could go through some old family photos- if you're like me, you have tons that need to be dated and put into albums. Pick out some especially good ones of your dad and put them in nice frames to display in your house or share with relatives.

If you have the room, why not plant a tree or a flowering perennial?

Maybe you could volunteer someplace? I am sure a local senior center would love someone with your computer skills to come in and work with the residents.

Enjoy your beer and try to think of happier times past and those yet to come-
DM

Remember all the things that meant something to you in your relation with your father.
Write them down, so you can come back to them, and read them and share them.

Take care, and I send my sympathies.

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And we should consider every day lost on which we have not danced at least once.
—Friedrich Nietzsche
Western Massachusetts

Oh, and have something nourishing to eat.

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And we should consider every day lost on which we have not danced at least once.
—Friedrich Nietzsche
Western Massachusetts

Sorry about your loss. I usually try to listen to some good music when things get rough.

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jager?
What's that? Can you bring some over?


Dad in Korea

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Central VA

I'm so sorry for your loss.

When my Grandmother died, I also could not go the funeral. She was an unlearned person of great wisdom. Barely literate. A step-mother to her children, brought in under convenience when my Dad's real mom died in childbirth. Yet she raised a family that ultimately counted three PhDs and two corprorate vice presidents among her step-children.

I wrote a eulogy that was read by a cousin of mine. Even though I was not there in person, I felt like I was there in spirit. And many of my relatives later told me that my words touched them.

You have a wonderful way with words, so maybe you could do something similar.

P.S. Just saw the photo. He looks so strong and proud in that uniform.

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Don't ask who the bell's for, dude. It's you.



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Your words are so kind. I knew I could find compassion here. I'm saddened not just by the loss of my dad, but of how family matters are being handled. Unfortunately, I'm sure many of you have had similar experiences.
I've had some dinner, so now I think I'll take my best friend, Gabi, for a walk. Maybe Waitin4CJ will come, too. I'll think about Dad and some words I might be able to put to paper to honor him.
In addition to serving in the Korean War, Dad retired from the Freeport Police Department after twenty years service and will be buried with military honors and a twenty-one gun salute. It sounds like it will be a wonderful tribute.

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Central VA

Dad certainly looked like one of the tough Guys. God Bless.

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I am so sorry for your loss, CJ

Fathers from that generation were a different breed from the ones today. I know because that picture could be my father.

I got to go to my father's funeral but I missed seeing him alive before he died. We all have regrets.

Write something for the funeral and have someone read it. A very good suggestion from sscutchen.

sharon

Very sorry for your loss, CJ...you have my deepest condolences.

I'm sorry to hear about your loss CJ. I don't know what else to say. I lost my dad in 2001 and I still feel the sadness of not having him here. You have my sympathy.

Sorry to hear about your Dad.
I like the idea of planting a tree or plant in memory of your father.

How come you can't go down to the funeral? That would be the best medicine.

CJ, I'm very sorry to hear about your father.

Is it possible that you can sit down alone for some of the time that you know the funeral is going on, and spend a while meditating about your father and your memories and feelings. You could play music, or not, depending on your preference or opportunity. It might be a way to feel connected to the event even though you aren't physically there...