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An extremely sad couple of days.
Posted by: vision63
Date: January 08, 2022 01:01PM
Detectives identify victims of double homicide at Tulare and Peach in Fresno
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I've known Melba since she was a 17 year old freshman at Chico State back in 1980. I'd already been there since 1977. I've been close to her family ever since then.

She started an events planning and execution business in 2005 and asked me to join it that day. Basically, it's a side business for me. This woman knew how to make money. A bigger than life person with a huge smile and effervescent personality. All I ever had to do was plug into a fully planned event and do my work.

We got to hire tons of our friends and their children as helpers and it's been a real blessing.

Her father, Mel was like a second dad to me. He was a minister and a real estate entrepreneur. He owned many properties. He taught me how to acquire properties without even necessarily having the money. The man could flip a property. I loved him and his wife Della (who passed 10 years ago).

They're in Fresno. Yesterday morning I got a call from Melba's sister Julia. I braced myself for her to tell me about her father passing as he's been ill. I was floored when he told me Melba and Mel were killed in a homicide. I am just blown away.

Melba has 3 kids. I called her husband (former husband but they're still close) to tell him that my heart was with him. I also had to call the girls that they share (grown with their own kids) and it was just crushing.

The pandemic has really destroyed the event business but just last week she was telling me about plans for the spring and summer. She was geeked about getting out there if we could. I always enjoy my time with her. She always elevated me and made me feel more special than I am.

There's more to this that isn't mentioned in the news stories. But I can't talk about that yet.

My best friend from college, Candis is her sister in law. Yesterday, Candis and I talked for hours. We're tired. We've lost so many of our close people in the last couple of years. Our moms, our brothers, 4 of my childhood best buddies, my sports fanatic buddies Teddy Ted and Johnny are gone and Fred (Fast Fred) had a stroke and is in a nursing home. My boys that rooted alongside me the Lakers, Dodgers, Rams and Kings from when we were in Junior High School. We caught the bus to Dodgers stadium super early to catch fly balls. Now when I go to Dodgers games it's just me sitting there and that @#$%& sucks.

When I go down to L.A., where I grew up it's like driving around a graveyard. I love L.A., but it's hard to be there.

I am so upset. I can't believe we have to lose our sweet baby Melba and her dad in such a vicious way. They did not deserve this. Rest in Heaven darling.

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Re: An extremely sad couple of days.
Posted by: S. Pupp
Date: January 08, 2022 01:03PM
I am so very sorry for your loss. What a horrible tragedy.
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Re: An extremely sad couple of days.
Posted by: lost in space
Date: January 08, 2022 01:09PM
That is so sad. Please do take care of yourself.



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Re: An extremely sad couple of days.
Posted by: cbelt3
Date: January 08, 2022 01:09PM
Oh Gods… what a tragedy.
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Re: An extremely sad couple of days.
Posted by: hal
Date: January 08, 2022 01:10PM
so sad...
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Re: An extremely sad couple of days.
Posted by: Michael
Date: January 08, 2022 01:11PM
That is so terrible. I'm so sorry.
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Re: An extremely sad couple of days.
Posted by: davester
Date: January 08, 2022 01:16PM
So sad to hear that vision. You are the light of the forum and you deserve more light than the darkness you're seeing now. My deepest sympathy and best wishes to you.



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Re: An extremely sad couple of days.
Posted by: TheCaber
Date: January 08, 2022 01:20PM
cry smiley

V, I am sorry for your loss(es). Lives stolen. Futures gone. You are right, it sucks.



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Re: An extremely sad couple of days.
Posted by: Rick-o
Date: January 08, 2022 01:46PM
That is horrible!

So sorry for your and the family's loss.

R.I.P. Mel and Melba.



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Re: An extremely sad couple of days.
Posted by: August West
Date: January 08, 2022 02:42PM
Condolences, vision.



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Re: An extremely sad couple of days.
Posted by: AllGold
Date: January 08, 2022 02:42PM
I really don't know what to say other than I'm sorry and you're in my thoughts.
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Re: An extremely sad couple of days.
Posted by: anonymouse1
Date: January 08, 2022 02:47PM
My condolences for your loss. May good memories help carry you through these challenging times.
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Re: An extremely sad couple of days.
Posted by: Pam
Date: January 08, 2022 03:22PM
I am very sorry. Such a horrible ending. I hope everyone can find justice and peace.
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Re: An extremely sad couple of days.
Posted by: Blankity Blank
Date: January 08, 2022 05:16PM
I am so sorry such pain has touched your life and those of her family and friends.

Hold her in your heart. Nothing can touch her there, only your enduring love. That’s what I’ve learned to do. Maintain a perfect world bathed in light and warmth and the love that was shared. That cannot be extinguished.



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Re: An extremely sad couple of days.
Posted by: Don C
Date: January 08, 2022 07:05PM
Adding to the chorus of condolences. Wish we could help ease the pain.
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Re: An extremely sad couple of days.
Posted by: DP
Date: January 08, 2022 07:28PM
Mind boggling... Such a waste and for what?

My condolences on your great loss and hope that justice will be served too.





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Re: An extremely sad couple of days.
Posted by: A-Polly
Date: January 08, 2022 08:58PM
Oh vision, words fail me completely. My heart aches for you and for all the friends and family who are stunned by the loss of these lovely and vibrant human beings. My deepest condolences. I hope you can just breathe for now.
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Re: An extremely sad couple of days.
Posted by: Rolando
Date: January 08, 2022 09:11PM
I am so sorry for the losses. Truly saddens me.



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Re: An extremely sad couple of days.
Posted by: rich in distress
Date: January 09, 2022 12:00AM
Oh man…
I am so very sorry, my condolences.
Stay strong, justice will prevail.
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Re: An extremely sad couple of days.
Posted by: RAMd®d
Date: January 09, 2022 07:17PM
I have no words that can lighten the weight of your pain, Vis.

I wish I did.

I do know that you will get through this, as well as anyone possibly can after suffering such a horrific loss.

That's not now.

Being there for you other family members is possibly the best thing you can do for yourself.

You are in my thoughts, as well as those of the forum members.
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