We got word this morning that a friend of our son took his life last night. They first knew each other in 3rd grade. Matthew was 21, suffering from anxiety, Crohn's disease and intense headaches, getting treatment on the other side of the state with limited success. He was a sweet kid, but was having a hard time. Our hearts are broken. We'll be telling our son after work. My wife is with the family now.

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R.I.P.

Such a tragedy for someone not even beginning to start life. My condolences.

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Mr. Lahey: A lot of people, don’t know how to drink. They drink against the grain of the liquor. And when you drink against the grain of the liquor? You lose.

Randy: What the @#$%& are you talking about?

My condolences. You may want to seek professional advice for your son.

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Saint Cloud, Minnesota, where the weather is wonderful even when it isn't.

So sorry for your loss ... points out how urgent the mental health issues have become, especially in the last two years.

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Freya says, 'Hello from NOLA, baby!' (Laissez bon temps rouler!)

So very sorry to hear this horrible news.

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It is what it is.

Due to the poison of social media it has never been harder to be a child or a young man than it is now.

Sorry to hear about this. Positive thoughts and prayers coming that way.

This is heartbreaking. My condolences to you, your wife, your son and his friends family.

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JoeM

What a tragedy.
My condolences.

Damn. So sorry to hear this, and so sorry for your loss. I went to funerals with my children for the four children who took their lives from their HS Class. It was and is heartbreaking.

Just because you ask for help from a medical provider absolutely doesn't mean you will get it. I'm proof of that.

Hell, sometimes even family doesn't give a @#$%&.

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So very sorry for your family and the family of his friend.

Due to the poison of social media it has never been harder to be a child or a young man than it is now.


I agree 100%, though I don't know that this played any part in Matthew's suicide.

My condolences to you, your family, and to Matthew's family.

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I am that Masked Man.

All you can do, is all you can do.

There’s trouble — it's time to play the sound of my people.

Your boos mean nothing to me, I've seen what you cheer for.

Insisting on your rights without acknowledging your responsibilities isn’t freedom, it’s adolescence.

I've been to the edge of the map, and there be monsters.

We are a government of laws, not men.

Everybody counts or nobody counts.

When a good man is hurt,
all who would be called good
must suffer with him.

You and I have memories longer than the road that stretches out ahead.

There is no safety for honest men except
by believing all possible evil of evil men.

We don’t do focus groups. They just ensure that you don’t offend anyone, and produce bland inoffensive products. —Sir Jonathan Ive

An armed society is a polite society.
And hope is a lousy defense.

You make me pull, I'll put you down.

I *love* SIGs. It's Glocks I hate.

His mom, even in this trying time, kept the news off social media because she wanted his friends to learn about it from people, not Facebook. What strength.

Thank you all for the comforting words.

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My condolences. My son's friend made a the same mistake at the same age.

He is still dealing with it.

Looking back, I recall have a couple of friends die by thier own hand. Some purposefully, some accidentally (drug overdose).

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San Antonio, TX (in the old city)


"All that is required for evil to prevail is for good men to do nothing." - Edmund Burke
“Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented." - Eli Weisel

"To announce that there must be no criticism of the President, or that we are to stand by the President, right or wrong, is not only unpatriotic and servile, but is morally treasonable to the American public." - Theodore Roosevelt (1918)

"I don’t want to see religious bigotry in any form. It would disturb me if there was a wedding between the religious fundamentalists and the political right. The hard right has no interest in religion except to manipulate it." - Billy Graham 1981

"Politics and governing demand compromise. But these Christians believe they are acting in the name of God, so they can't and won't compromise" - Barry Goldwater

I'm so sorry.

Your son will be fine. It could be way worse.

I got an early morning call to go to my brother's work and identify his body when he hung himself. You get over it. Carrying the grief around serves no purpose.

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“A sword never kills anybody; it is a tool in the killer's hand.” Seneca the Younger

The police have no duty to respond. See Castle Rock v. Gonzales, 545 U.S. 748 (2005) or Warren v. District of Columbia[1] (444 A.2d. 1, D.C. Ct. of Ap. 1981)

Judge Lee wrote that “we cannot jettison our constitutional rights, even if the goal behind a law is laudable." 9th Circuit Court of Appeals

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Your son will be fine. It could be way worse.

I got an early morning call to go to my brother's work and identify his body when he hung himself. You get over it. Carrying the grief around serves no purpose.

Sorry for your loss. Was you brother in his early 20s?

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Saint Cloud, Minnesota, where the weather is wonderful even when it isn't.

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Racer X
Your son will be fine. It could be way worse.

I got an early morning call to go to my brother's work and identify his body when he hung himself. You get over it. Carrying the grief around serves no purpose.

I am glad to hear that you have reached a state of equilibrium in regard to this tragedy. It is not an easy thing. Please remember, though, that everyone has their own way of processing such an experience, and it is important to give them the space necessary to do so.

My sense is that you can tamp that stuff down for decades but when you get older it's not as tamped down as you thought. Of course, Spock would differ.

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Racer X
Your son will be fine. It could be way worse.

I got an early morning call to go to my brother's work and identify his body when he hung himself. You get over it. Carrying the grief around serves no purpose.

Sorry for your loss. Was you brother in his early 20s?

Just turned 33.

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“A sword never kills anybody; it is a tool in the killer's hand.” Seneca the Younger

The police have no duty to respond. See Castle Rock v. Gonzales, 545 U.S. 748 (2005) or Warren v. District of Columbia[1] (444 A.2d. 1, D.C. Ct. of Ap. 1981)

Judge Lee wrote that “we cannot jettison our constitutional rights, even if the goal behind a law is laudable." 9th Circuit Court of Appeals

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