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Calling women of MacForum! Advice Needed.
Posted by: kap
Date: February 03, 2006 11:14AM
Now that Valentine's Day is approaching, what should we do for a good friend who is presently going through a divorce after 8 years of marriage. She and her ex don't have any children of their own; she has three teenagers from previous marriage. She's a well-to-do and generous business woman so she doesn't need any extravagant gifts. TiA

Gotta go earn my keeps now. Will check back afterwards.

Kap



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Edited 2 time(s). Last edit at 02/03/2006 11:24AM by kap.
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Re: Calling women of MacForum! Advice Needed.
Posted by: billb
Date: February 03, 2006 11:24AM
Paul F's telephone number.
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Re: Calling women of MacForum! Advice Needed.
Posted by: Ken Sp.
Date: February 03, 2006 11:25AM
Offer to take the kids off her hands for an evening.
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Re: Calling women of MacForum! Advice Needed.
Posted by: Golfer
Date: February 03, 2006 11:26AM
billb Wrote:
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> Paul F's telephone number.

LOL!




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Re: Calling women of MacForum! Advice Needed.
Posted by: Paul F.
Date: February 03, 2006 11:28AM


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Re: Calling women of MacForum! Advice Needed.
Posted by: kap
Date: February 03, 2006 11:29AM
Ken,
We would but her children are: a 20 year old with a three year old baby; an 18 year old rebel; and a sweet 14 year old boy, who is well-behaved on his own. Besides, just for the older ones, we would need to follow the advices offered here [forums.macresource.com]

Kap



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Re: Calling women of MacForum! Advice Needed.
Posted by: rgG
Date: February 03, 2006 11:33AM
From a women's perspective here, I would say just invite her over for a quiet dinner at home with the two of you. If you take her out, she will no doubt see lots of "couples" doing the Valentine's Day thing and it might make her sad, it would me.

Don't make a big deal about it being Valentine's Day, as she would probably rather not think about it. Just invite her over so she won't be sitting at home alone. Just my humble opinion. HTH.





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Re: Calling women of MacForum! Advice Needed.
Posted by: $tevie
Date: February 03, 2006 11:37AM
I'm with rgG on this. I can't think of anything to add to her post.
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Re: Calling women of MacForum! Advice Needed.
Posted by: bangman
Date: February 03, 2006 11:43AM
Tequila!



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Re: Calling women of MacForum! Advice Needed.
Posted by: Ken Sp.
Date: February 03, 2006 11:44AM
Yea--rgG-is on the right track-the old DM posts regarding "Hookers and Booze" seems hardly appropriate in this case. One of the few times it didn't apply to a post :-)
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Re: Calling women of MacForum! Advice Needed.
Posted by: JoeM
Date: February 03, 2006 11:49AM
Depending on your knowledge of the lady, you could send her a dozen roses with a nice note about what her friendship means to you both.

I did this last year with my GF's daughter who was sans boyfriend on Valentine's Day. She loves flowers and wasn't going to be getting them, which would have made her a bit more down in the dumps.

Glad to report she met a nice guy a month or so after so they're not needed this year from me. (Maybe I'll send them anyway.)



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Re: Calling women of MacForum! Advice Needed.
Posted by: dmann
Date: February 03, 2006 11:51AM
Has she indicated to you she doesn't want to be alone on Valentine's Day?

As a single female, I don't know that I would accept an invitation on Valentine's day. Dinner at home with friend(s) (who are all coupled off) or dinner out would feel equally awkward to me.

Of course, I am not big on Valentine's Day to begin with. Even when I have been dating someone or was in a relationship I never went for all the hearts and flowers and candy hoopla. There is absolutely nothing wrong with it and many people LOVE it. It just isn't my thing.

DM

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Re: Calling women of MacForum! Advice Needed.
Posted by: BigGuynRusty
Date: February 03, 2006 12:00PM
What are you gonna do about Love Day?

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Re: Calling women of MacForum! Advice Needed.
Posted by: $tevie
Date: February 03, 2006 12:11PM
I've never been all that big on Valentine's Day, either, dmann, so I know where you are coming from. On the other hand, we never did much about Mother's or Father's Day in my family -- yet after my father died I would feel so melancholy when I saw the cards on the racks and the commercials on TV...so it's not hard to imagine that the first Valentine's Day without your partner could be sort of depressing, even if you never made a big deal out of it. It's the difference between not wanting to do something and not being able to do it.
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Re: Calling women of MacForum! Advice Needed.
Posted by: Pam
Date: February 03, 2006 12:21PM
I agree with the advice given so far about not making Valentine's Day a big deal. Why not try to give her something to look forward to instead. Like inviting her out to dinner on Wed. the day after Valentine's Day.

Depending on the circumstances, she may be very glad to be alone on Valentine's Day. For me, it's just another excuse to have chocolate. Especially when you can buy it the next day at 1/2 price smiling smiley
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Re: Calling women of MacForum! Advice Needed.
Posted by: jdc
Date: February 03, 2006 12:52PM
talk about the "third wheel" -- thats all she would feel like -- at least thats all i would feel like
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Re: Calling women of MacForum! Advice Needed.
Posted by: Michael
Date: February 03, 2006 01:39PM
jdc Wrote:
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> talk about the "third wheel" -- thats all she
> would feel like -- at least thats all i would feel
> like


Hmmm. How about a girl's night out (assuming that kap's "we" encompasses at least one girl)?
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Re: Calling women of MacForum! Advice Needed.
Posted by: AlphaDog
Date: February 03, 2006 01:48PM
I hope people ignore me, except for greetings from my son, who I will expect to be doing something special with/for his sweetheart without including me. I don't have any desire to be publicly reminded that I no longer have a Valentine's Day sweetheart by hanging out with a "happy couple." I might consider crying in my beer with some other female singles, but that's about it.
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Re: Calling women of MacForum! Advice Needed.
Posted by: msglee
Date: February 03, 2006 01:56PM
Just let her know she won't be out of the loop once she's single.



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Re: Calling women of MacForum! Advice Needed.
Posted by: The UnDoug
Date: February 03, 2006 02:01PM
hookers and booze!
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Re: Calling women of MacForum! Advice Needed.
Posted by: WHiiP
Date: February 03, 2006 02:20PM
If you do the dinner bit, you could still invite Paul F. . . or me . . . or both of us . . .grinning smiley

drinking smiley cheers





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Re: Calling women of MacForum! Advice Needed.
Posted by: davester
Date: February 03, 2006 02:55PM
Valentine's Day has become far too overwrought. It's supposed to be for secret lovers, not everybody in the universe. Fer chrissake, it's more of a Hallmark retailer's "rake in the bucks" day than anything else. Ignore all that ridiculous advertising and get a life.



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Re: Calling women of MacForum! Advice Needed.
Posted by: PeterB
Date: February 03, 2006 03:02PM
right on, davester.

My view: why should you need a specific day/excuse to make your sweetie feel loved and appreciated? Couldn't that be any day?




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Re: Calling women of MacForum! Advice Needed.
Posted by: Jimmypoo
Date: February 03, 2006 08:13PM
THREESOME!
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Re: Calling women of MacForum! Advice Needed.
Posted by: RAMd®d
Date: February 03, 2006 08:17PM
Hallmark hooey or no, it's still fun to make your favorite girl feel eXXXtree special.

One can make their special other feel special all year 'round (no not really) but by that reasoning, why celebrate birthdays, Christmas, etc, let alone Moms' and Dads' days.

Heck, let's abolish holidays altogether, afterall, there just a way to weasel money out of us by the card and gift companies, and us lazy no-accounts to get out of work.

In fact, let's have a roulette wheel, and give it a spin. On *that* one day a year, we *don't* have to make anybody feel extra special, because we already do that each and every day.

But to answer the original question, Paul F's phone number (too funny!), a quiet dinner at his place, and tequila shooters, and K-Y warming "massage" lotion, and Twister.






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Re: Calling women of MacForum! Advice Needed.
Posted by: PeterB
Date: February 03, 2006 08:38PM
RAMmie, I have one word for you:


FESTIVUS !!!


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Re: Calling women of MacForum! Advice Needed.
Posted by: DavidS
Date: February 03, 2006 09:12PM
The Holiday for the rest of us?
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Re: Calling women of MacForum! Advice Needed.
Posted by: blooz
Date: February 03, 2006 09:35PM
dmann Wrote:
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Even when I have been dating someone
> or was in a relationship I never went for all the
> hearts and flowers and candy hoopla.
>
Hey, a guy could save a lot of money going out with you, dmann. Interested in an "older gentleman" type? heh, heh.





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Re: Calling women of MacForum! Advice Needed.
Posted by: kap
Date: February 03, 2006 09:57PM
Well, I asked point blank today if V's Day is a big deal to her. She said even though her exes were somewhat more into it. V's Day has never appealed to her. It's her health and her kids which are the most important. I suppose my S/O and I can just simply invite her over for a home made meal.

Thanks everyone for the advices.

Paul F. and Bill,
If you guys understand women, you knon that they don't often jump into the dating scene or another relationship soon after a relationship disintegrates. Sorry guys!

Kap.



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Re: Calling women of MacForum! Advice Needed.
Posted by: Jimmypoo
Date: February 03, 2006 10:16PM
Who said anything about a relationship?

WE HAVE NEEDS!
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Re: Calling women of MacForum! Advice Needed.
Posted by: kap
Date: February 03, 2006 10:19PM
jimmypoo ... LOL.
I hear ya. Well, she's from the old school ;)

Kap



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Re: Calling women of MacForum! Advice Needed.
Posted by: billb
Date: February 04, 2006 09:17AM
Jeez, just the telephone number.
I didn't suggest forcing them into a room like caged monkeys.
(sorry, Paul )

Women are like snowflakes, every one different.
Some will jump into the next available warm spot, some want clean closets.

A card is easy to toss in the trash, and means you at least thought of her in some way.
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Re: Calling women of MacForum! Advice Needed.
Posted by: dmann
Date: February 04, 2006 09:41AM
I don't know blooz... I have a rather expensive Mac habit and will need a new car sometime in the next year.

The flowers and candy would probably be cheaper. smiling smiley

DM
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Re: Calling women of MacForum! Advice Needed.
Posted by: wowzer
Date: February 04, 2006 10:02AM
davester Wrote:
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> Valentine's Day has become far too overwrought.
> It's supposed to be for secret lovers, not
> everybody in the universe. Fer chrissake, it's
> more of a Hallmark retailer's "rake in the bucks"
> day than anything else. Ignore all that
> ridiculous advertising and get a life.


Agreed.

I have never found any of the so-called holidays worth a drop in a bucket. Father's day, mother's day, grandparent's day, etc, etc....just a conspiracy created by hallmark, the flower industry, and chocolate makers to sell a few extra items. I found a girl who didn't care for this nonsense, and married her.

If you are good to your spouse/friends, then these so called holidays aren't worth a damned thing.

My 2¢



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