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And extremely sad couple of days
Posted by: vision63
Date: January 08, 2022 12:50PM
Detectives identify victims of double homicide at Tulare and Peach in Fresno
[kmph.com]

I've known Melba since she was a 17 year old freshman at Chico State back in 1980. I'd already been there since 1977. I've been close to her family ever since then.

She started an events planning and execution business in 2005 and asked me to join it that day. Basically, it's a side business for me. This woman knew how to make money. A bigger than life person with a huge smile and effervescent personality. All I ever had to do was plug into a fully planned event and do my work.

We got to hire tons of our friends and their children as helpers and it's been a real blessing.

Her father, Mel was like a second dad to me. He was a minister and a real estate entrepreneur. He owned many properties. He taught me how to acquire properties without even necessarily having the money. The man could flip a property. I loved him and his wife Della (who passed 10 years ago).

They're in Fresno. Yesterday morning I got a call from Melba's sister Julia. I braced myself for her to tell me about her father passing as he's been ill. I was floored when he told me Melba and Mel were killed in a homicide. I am just blown away.

Melba has 3 kids. I called her husband (former husband but they're still close) to tell him that my heart was with him. I also had to call the girls that they share (grown with their own kids) and it was just crushing.

The pandemic has really destroyed the event business but just last week she was telling me about plans for the spring and summer. She was geeked about getting out there if we could. I always enjoy my time with her. She always elevated me and made me feel more special than I am.

There's more to this that isn't mentioned in the news stories. But I can't talk about that yet.

My best friend from college, Candis is her sister in law. Yesterday, Candis and I talked for hours. We're tired. We've lost so many of our close people in the last couple of years. Our moms, our brothers, 4 of my childhood best buddies, my sports fanatic buddies Teddy Ted and Johnny are gone and Fred (Fast Fred) had a stroke and is in a nursing home. My boys that rooted alongside me the Lakers, Dodgers, Rams and Kings from when we were in Junior High School. We caught the bus to Dodgers stadium super early to catch fly balls. Now when I go to Dodgers games it's just me sitting there and that @#$%& sucks.

When I go down to L.A., where I grew up it's like driving around a graveyard. I love L.A., but it's hard to be there.

I am so upset. I can't believe we have to lose our sweet baby Melba and her dad in such a vicious way. They did not deserve this. Rest in Heaven darling.





Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 01/08/2022 12:56PM by vision63.
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Re: And extremely sad couple of days
Posted by: S. Pupp
Date: January 08, 2022 01:02PM
I am so very sorry for your loss. What a horrible tragedy.
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Re: And extremely sad couple of days
Posted by: rgG
Date: January 08, 2022 01:06PM
That sounds just horrible.
I am so sorry for you and her family.
That is a great picture of her.





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Re: And extremely sad couple of days
Posted by: Rolando
Date: January 08, 2022 01:08PM
I am truly saddened for your, and her family's loss. My mother died when my youngest was was <3, so I truly grieve for her grandchildren, and Mel's great grandchildren, who were robbed!



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Re: And extremely sad couple of days
Posted by: mrbigstuff
Date: January 08, 2022 01:27PM
Oh, man, I am so sorry. We (me) have been going through a lot of this lately, although I've not posted about any of it (yet). My sincere condolences. The best I can say is that you're not alone in grief.
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Re: And extremely sad couple of days
Posted by: Ted King
Date: January 08, 2022 01:43PM
That has got to be so tough for you. I'm very sorry to hear that this happened.



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Re: And extremely sad couple of days
Posted by: bfd
Date: January 08, 2022 02:53PM
This is indeed horrible news. Hoping you can eventually find the silver lining somewhere - you're usually pretty good at that - but it's not going to be at all quick or easy with a loss like this.
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Re: And extremely sad couple of days
Posted by: wave rider
Date: January 08, 2022 03:43PM
So sorry for your loss vision…

Do be kind to yourself.



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Re: And extremely sad couple of days
Posted by: davester
Date: January 08, 2022 10:38PM
So sorry to hear that vision. You are the light of the forum so I am saddened by seeing your bright disposition have to endure such a dark time. You have my deepest sympathy and wishes for you to return to the light.



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Re: And extremely sad couple of days
Posted by: Speedy
Date: January 08, 2022 11:38PM
My sincerest condolences. She seems to have been a jewel in your life.



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Re: And extremely sad couple of days
Posted by: p8712
Date: January 08, 2022 11:43PM
V63, I’m so saddened to read of this tragedy. I hope justice is done for Melba, and peace finds you.
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Re: And extremely sad couple of days
Posted by: $tevie
Date: January 09, 2022 12:22AM
So many losses for you and these sound particularly tragic. I'm very sorry. Please accept my condolences. May they rest in peace.



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Re: And extremely sad couple of days
Posted by: Janit
Date: January 09, 2022 05:22AM
My their memories be a blessing.
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Re: And extremely sad couple of days
Posted by: Lemon Drop
Date: January 09, 2022 11:38AM
So very sorry to hear about the loss of your friends.

Thank you for sharing more about these lives, taken too soon. Melba in her prime. Mel with many years behind him but still so much to enjoy every day. Who murders a 90 year old? What a tragedy.
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Re: And extremely sad couple of days
Posted by: Buzz
Date: January 09, 2022 04:09PM
Dang, that does put the 'extreme' in extremely sad.
So sorry all around.
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Re: And extremely sad couple of days
Posted by: Lux Interior
Date: January 09, 2022 05:02PM
So sorry for your loss.
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Re: And extremely sad couple of days
Posted by: graylocks
Date: January 09, 2022 05:54PM
My heart aches for your loss, vision63. It's hard enough losing those we love much less under such horrid, violent circumstances. No one deserves this.



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Re: And extremely sad couple of days
Posted by: August West
Date: January 09, 2022 06:31PM
Condolences, vision. confused smiley



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